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5 questions to ask yourself to help becoming you

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I have put together five questions to ask ourselves that I think might help us become more authentic.
Being us!!

1.   How do I re-energize?   It is the end of a busy week.  Whether you work for yourself or someone else we all get to a point when we have had enough.  At this point you know you have to recharge your batteries. What do you do?  I think it is important that we recognize what we need to do before we burnout.  For some (me) I need to shut down.  So Sunday afternoon I book myself at home to read, putter, craft and just be.  For others they recharge heading out with friends.  Conversation and people around them energize them.  There is no either or, there is just recognizing what you have to do to recharge becoming you.

2.   What is my style?  I don’t mean does it fit?  Is it good quality?  Do I look okay in it?  None of these apply.  I want to put a piece of clothing on and feel good about it – that it expresses who I am.  Perky?  Casual?  Sophisticated?  I want my clothes and accessories to express something about me.  So what is your style?  What do you want to express/show?

3.   What am I doing or not doing to move myself forward?  If life is a journey we are all moving forward and hopefully learning/growing along the way.  Are you doing anything that is holding you back?  Suffocating you?  Or maybe you are just not participating in your growth.  We can get stuck.  Too busy at work.  Too tired.  Too over committed.  For me I feel better when I have a project. I am working towards accomplishing something. I try to put into practice what I am learning (meditation/breathing).  Is there something you want to try?  Or maybe it is the opposite – you have committed to something that is dragging you down. Consider if this is moving you away or towards becoming who you want to be (your authentic self).

4.   What is my touchstone?  I think we need a touchstone or mantra to get back to a balanced place. When we feel ourselves spinning out of control there should be something we can grab hold of to pull us back.  You know what I mean – you start to spiral down to that dark place where negativity breeds negativity.  We need a touchstone to stop that spiral.  It can be a phrase “this too will pass” or just concentrating on your breath.  Something to break the cycle sooner than later.  What is your touchstone?

5.   How am I adding to my community?  We get to define what our community is. Local or global.  We get to define how, when and where we contribute.  If you have children, aging parents, a busy job then realize you can’t do it all.  Maybe adding to your community right now is helping with fundraisers at your children’s school.  Buying Girl Guide cookies from your friend at work.  Sponsoring a child overseas (writing that monthly cheque).  At different stages of our lives we have different commitments.  My thing is we have to realize we are all in this together.  Be a good neighbour, hold the door open, smile when you make eye contact, listen to understand.  Do what you can for your community.  Realizing that every positive action/step is worth it no matter how small you might think it is.

I would love to hear from you.  If you have other questions we should be asking ourselves please share.

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25 thoughts on “5 questions to ask yourself to help becoming you

  1. This is a great post. When I finally learned how I re-energize and accepted that everything else began to change for me too, I started down a road of self discovery. As an introvert I often felt like I needed to become more extroverted and outgoing I didn’t accept myself in many ways. But once I learned that I was just an introvert everything became easier for me and that self confidence made everything easier!

    1. I’m an introvert also and knowing that does help. I often tell people “I have to be off to be on”. We need diversity and I feel we all have strengths to offer. Recognizing how we re-energize and what we can offer to any situation is major.

    1. Yes I agree. We have to step back and question. Am I on my path or someone else’s? Mental health is so not talked about enough but so important. Our mental health affects everything. Thanks for commenting and stopping by.

  2. The global community, our world has got so much smaller than when we were kids 🙂 We hope we give back something positive when we stay in the different areas we housesit. For example at the market this morning my usual stall I visit the women always greet me with a smile and arm gestures, one can not speak English as not much Turkish speak English here. We love our contact with the local people. I think I had better stop now as I am sure I have gone off track 🙂

    1. I love your “off track”. Yes to giving back something positive – a smile goes a long way. We are all in this together one global community. Wish more people would realize this. One human race. One community. I guess it starts with us.

  3. Wow this is great! Sometimes just knowing what questions to ask ourselves helps so much!! Thank you for this new perspective!

    1. I am a self-help junkie and actually enjoy “homework” now that I am an adult. So asking questions and pushing boundaries is something I enjoy doing if it moves me forward and has me questioning things. Thanks for stopping by and commenting.

      1. I’m new, haha. I started seeing a therapist after a pregnancy loss and it was so foreign for her to ask questions in this same line…. it’s a great way to re-center!

        1. sorry for you loss. Yes to re-centering, not disconnecting what we are going through, but breathing and taking something away from it. Maybe not at the time if we are raw but eventually. Even if it means helping someone else. Oh may we really get into stuff with our commenting! Take care.

    1. That is a great mantra and I think we should all be saying it and expressing it. For me life is a journey so I want to have experiences that will enrich me with memories/experiences. thanks for stopping by! Your blog looks beautiful – I popped in.

  4. I think as a youth its very hard to find yourself. All these outside influences really reflect upon you. As you grow up you start to strip artificial layers a side and really learn who you are xxx

    1. So true. I said that to someone recently that aging was a gift as so many people pass away early. Yes to stripping artificial layers and finally accepting the package (which also comes with age).

  5. These are all great questions! I have been working on finding some of my own mantras to help me in my daily life. I have always struggled with being a perfectionist and I have found that the mantra “I am enough” has really helped to decrease some of my struggles and anxiety surrounding that need to be perfect all of the time. Great post! 🙂

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