Forgive once and lighten the load

forgiveness

When I read this it stuck with me.   I knew, eventually, I wanted to do a post on it.  It is something I struggle with (am I the only one?) so hope this starts a conversation.  Here is goes:

“you only have to forgive once.  To resent, you have to do it all day, every day.  You have to keep remembering all the bad things.”

I think this is a work in progress for a lot of us.  We get caught up in past hurts and never really let them go.  Yes, we say we have forgiven or forgot, but have we really?  We let things trigger us into remembering being judged, embarrassed or forgotten.  Then when triggered that past resentment, angry or depression can overwhelmed us again.  Resentment is sneaky that way hiding just below the surface.

So let’s start a conversation – even within our heads – of what we want to let go. What we don’t want to carry into the next chapter of our lives.  I know it is hard and I’ve carried a ton of resentment over the years and I’m a work in progress all the time.  I only have so much energy and I want to focus it in so many other places.   So let’s work at forgiving past hurts, or maybe just acknowledging them and letting them go. No longer carrying them around with us every day (they are so not worth it).  Learning our triggers and silencing them.

If you have any suggestions on letting go, please share with everyone.

Read the above quote in M.L. Stedman book The Light Between Oceans.

3 Comments

  1. Amelia this is so important. Happiness requires us to let go of resentment and to get over the past. And it can be really difficult sometimes. I struggle with it at times but every time I try to remember that the only person I’m hurting with resentment is myself. And that does the trick pretty well. Thank you for the reminder!

    1. Thank you for your comment and visiting the blog. I often think this is my biggest struggle and yes it hurts us more than anyone else. It is all about the journey and moving forward. Thanks for being part of it.

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