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“Perfectionism is not a quest for the best. It is a pursuit of the worst in ourselves, the part that tells us that nothing we do will ever be good enough.”  Julia Cameron

I recently read the above sentence and it resonated with me.  It reminded me of all the ideas, possibilities I have not started, not shared or shut-down before the glimpse was too real.  All because I know I am not perfect and could never do anything justice. So I always felt that if I didn’t start, I wouldn’t fail, be disappointed or worse open myself up to other people knowing I am a flawed.

How many doors have we refused to open or walk through because we felt we were not smart enough or skilled enough.  Or maybe, me for one, we have attempted something, but kept it close and not shared it feeling it was never “good enough”.   So we short change not only ourselves but the community by not taking a risk, embracing failure, learning from it and maybe creating something better. 

I am challenging myself and everyone to not wait for perfectionism – the fear we are not good enough.  Lets take risk,  open doors, become vulnerable. There is so much out there we are missing by holding back. What we have to offer is worth it.  Perfect – who wants that!! I want unique.  What we have to offer is enough – it is part of us and yes crictism hurts but it is better than living a life of regrets and “what ifs”.  I want to look in the mirror at the end of the day and say “yes I did that and I can take whatever life tosses at me because I am good enough the way I am and what I create/offer is uniquely me and that is enough.”

19 thoughts on “Perfectionism

  1. As someone who has to embrace failure right now because I was too afraid of not achieving something, I completely relate to this. I need to stop holding back too, thanks for this inspiring post ! 😊

    1. Regrets – have always been major for me. I decided I wanted to try and eliminate what I could so that meant doing things,putting things out there whether or not they were not perfect. Break things down into baby steps maybe and achieve those to start with. Don’t get caught up in the end result. Enjoy the journey as that is all we have. Good luck and will be following you on your blog!!

  2. What a great quote, so true.
    I am slowly learning not to be a perfectionist but I am still put off from doing thing in case I cannot do them perfectly. Blogging has actually helped with this, as had reading blogs.
    Great motivation, thanks.

    1. Blogging has helped me also as we so put ourselves out there. Plus it has helped keep me accountable and focused on other things. Just do it you have more regrets over things you don’t do than do. Not doing something perfectly is okay – more than okay. It is about the process and learning and/or enjoying that.

  3. I can totally relate to this, I’m so hard on myself all the time because if it’s not perfect it’s not good enough. Lately I have been trying to chill out and let myself make mistakes sometimes, take breaks and just slow down and I’m definitely feeling better. xx

    1. I have struggled with “not being good enough” my whole life. Mistakes are part of learning – finding out what you enjoy, want to pursue etc. a lot can be flipped into learning opportunities. That was fun but don’t need to do it again. Yes to chilling out and letting go of perceived ideas. It is often the journey not the end result we should focus on.

    1. I think we have to change our mind set to “I’ve done my best” “I’ve enjoyed the process”. I think we are missing opportunities – plus society will be quick enough to judge us, we don’t have to do it. Go for it!!

  4. What an amazing piece of motivational writing. I am a self-confessed perfectionist and whilst it has been good in some aspects – it makes me always do things to the best of my ability, it has in other ways infested my life like a disease. It has stopped me making so many decisions. It took years for me to even start my blog.
    I have this tendency to use this excuse…”when I have this and that…then I will do it”.
    And like you said, I avoided taking risks so that I would never fail. But that mindset leaves you in the same place. This is another reminder for me to keep going for what I want and not letting perfectionism take hold. x

    1. I think Melissa Gilbert ?? said perfectionism was one of the killers of creativity as you don’t create if you can’t make it perfect. In all honesty what is ever perfect? It took me a long time to put stuff out there (this blog for one). I also had to consider if judged (on stuff not being perfect) that is was not a reflection of me just someone’s opinion. So if you have done your best let it go. No regrets.

    1. Blogging for me has been extremely positive. It has made me put myself out there and that in turn has lead me to other ventures. Just be yourself. You are part of an amazing community.

    1. I agree it took me (still working on it) a long time to just put stuff out there. Just push through it as I think we regret more of what we don’t try than anything we actually do. Treat your 40s as your time to push through the fear and have an incredible chapter.

  5. I love this post and the message it delivers. I too am not perfect but have always considered myself as different…now I’m going to start calling myself unique. I actually prefer imperfection but it took me a long time to figure out that was ok – please yourself because you matter most!!!

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