I’m listening. I so want to understand.

I am reading the book Presence by Amy Cuddy.  She talks about relinquishing power to listen. To stop talking, preaching and listen to understand. By listening and giving up power we are really gaining so much more. I wanted to share what we can gain when we let go of knowing, asserting and listening more.

  • people trust you.  Trust is a building block. So much more learning and sharing will take place when trust is involved.
  • you acquire useful information.  Just shut up and listen. Don’t be thinking about what you want to say, as right there you are not listening. Hence you are not taking in what that person is offering.
  • you begin to see other people as individuals and maybe allies.  You are knocking down those walls of “us versus them”.
  • you develop solutions that other people are willing to accept and adopt.  There is more by in when people feel they have had input and have been listened to.
  • when people feel heard, they are more willing to listen.  Listening and respecting people will get your message across when needed.

So take a step back.  Listen to what other people have to say. Ask questions. Relinquish knowing it all or even half of it. Be open to a totally different take. Let someone shine. Be that person people want at the table. You know the one – the one that makes sure everyone is heard respectfully. I think we need more of these people now more than ever.

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Starting another journey – The Artist’s Way

I started The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron last week.  The book is more of an exploration and discovery than a read. It is broken down into 12 weeks with exercises that push boundaries and have you rethinking experiences.  I thought I’d share (and hope you hold me accountable) some of the exercises in the book.  There is week one.

Exploring our past. Everyone is creative in their own way. Week one is digging deep into our past and finding those people and moments that made us question and often withdraw from our creativity. Like you can’t even draw a stick figure, your stories are boring or even less blunt – you have to get a career where you can support yourself.  Writing, painting, pottery are great hobbies, but they are hobbies not a job. I am sure we have all heard that. So we put our creative ideas aside and get that job.

Week one has exercises of acknowledging those past hurts. Who said what – bringing them out in the open. Also list your champions. Those people who encouraged you. Another exercise was imagine you could live another life. What would it be? Is there a slice of it you could do now? Maybe take up a musical instrument? Sign up for a painting class?  Do it.

Also Julie Cameron is a big proponent of morning pages.  Just writing free-hand first thing in the morning whatever occurs to you. Just get it out.

I have done The Artist’s Way before and always get something out of it. At times my morning pages have been brutal as I pour out past and current hurts. Also it is hard to write down memories of not feeling good enough and exploring them. The positive is one of my previous imaginary lives is no longer imaginary. I am say/write I am a blogger and writer. Period.

So to the next 12 weeks for me.  I’ll keep you posted.  Remember we are all creative and have something unique to offer. DO NOT let anyone tell you differently.  Our job is to create and enjoy the process. Society will judge us and we can decided what we think of society.

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Happy International Women’s Day

Happy International Women’s Day !

I want to say since starting my blog I feel more apart of a community of women (majority not all – you men are great also) then I have ever before. There is so much sharing, support and encouragement in blogging.  Connecting on Facebook groups to share each other’s posts and lead us to each other’s sites.  All questions are answered in a respectful manner and encouragement and congratulations are always flowing.

I think we as bloggers (both sexes) have it covered in diversity, support and inclusion. Now if we could just package what we have to offer to the rest of world and I think we have just by doing what we do. So bloggers/creatives Happy International Women’s Day and thank you for showing what individuals can do in a non-competitive supportive community!   We rock.

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What caught my eye – favorites from the past month !

I cannot believe we have rolled into another month.  We had a week of brutal winter weather in February. Two snow storms accumulation in places of 100 cm.  The following week we had above freezing temperatures so thankfully a lot of snow melted.

The following is what caught my eye in the past month.  Hope you enjoy and maybe get inspired.

Solutions for a Small Entry or a Non-Existent Entry

Over at The Inspired Room she has a post on solutions for nonexistent entryways. Which appeals to me having one!  The examples of smaller furniture pieces, hooks and shelves has me thinking.

Gold Moon Wall abeautifulmess.com

A Beautifulmess has to be one of my favorite blogs to pop into as always a variety of posts. Check out their DIY gold moon wall.

Wonderlass 8 tips for developing a successful dream chasing mindset.  I liked this as it could be applied to any dream you have.  Good advice and doable.

I am a bit obsessed lately with ladders.  So this post I had to pin not only to my favorites board but also my project board.  Check out Cozy Little House for more ideas.

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OMG – these are incredible and some of them so easy. Check out Burlap and Blue for 50 DIY art tutorials. I had a hard time choosing one to post. I wanted one that was easy and the one above involves masking tape and paint.

There are so many creatives ideas and resources out there. I would love to hear what caught your eye in the past month.

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A Different Kind of Monthly Challenge

If you are just tuning in for the first time here is a fast summary.  The first Wednesday in January I decided to do a monthly challenge for the year.  My plan is to try different things from podcasts, crafts to just about anything!  Check out January and February challenges at the end of the post.

February was all about gratitude and acknowledging it in my gratitude journal.  My goal was 3-4 times a week to write down specific things I was grateful for that day or the day before.  I have to admit I wasn’t as successful as I wanted to be.  It is not that I don’t have things to be grateful for – I do.  The problem was remembering to write them down at the end of the day.  I’m thinking to create a habit maybe I have to do them every day, but then I’m not sure I wouldn’t get what they call gratitude fatigue.

When I did journal what I was grateful for it was easy to come up with 3-4 items.  A few where that I have a friend that checks up on me, that I enjoy my alone time, I saw Hidden Figures at the theatre, I had a beautiful walk to work after a snow storm and a friend sent me a package of art supplies in the mail.  I do believe writing down what we are grateful for can put things in perspective – no matter how bad our day was we can come up with a few things we are grateful for.  Like I enjoyed my coffee or the bus wasn’t late. Plus it takes us out of our negativity even for a few minutes.  I am going to continue to write in my gratitude journal on a weekly basis as I want to look back and see I had a good year.

This month I thought I’d give myself a bit of a break and do a craft.  I have always like those Sharpie crafts – you know write and/or draw on an item and bake it.  So that is my challenge and I’ll show you the finished project the first Wednesday in April.

Write an inspirational saying or draw a picture on a plate, mug, bowl or whatever. There are lots of instructions on Pinterest on baking time but the two things they are consistent on is after you use the Sharpie on your item wait 72 hours before putting it in the oven. The other thing is put the item in the oven and then turn the oven on so that the item and oven heat up together.  After that it is all over the place.

Destination Decoration tries various temperatures and time on her mugs.  Her winner is oven at 250 for two hours.  Something Turquoise has oven at 425 for one hour.  Once baked turn off oven and let item and oven cool off down together.

I would love to see what you create over the next month.  Happy Sharpie!!

February Challenge – gratitude journal

January Challenge – podcasts

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What is currently inspiring me

We get inspiration from all around us.  I think the more we explore and push our boundaries the more inspired we will become.  Exploring new things exposes us to new ideas or a different way of thinking.  Here are a few things that are currently inspiring me.

People creating I have always found inspiring.  There is something about listening to someone describe or do their passion that I find fascinating. It doesn’t necessarily have to be something I am interested in doing myself, but there is an energy that individuals give off that pulls me in.

I went to PodCamp (check out the post) last month and that got me thinking about YouTube as a platform.  These two bloggers/creatives as currently inspiring me with their podcasts.  Jen Carrington and Me and Orla interview other creatives in a relaxed, fun way that brings you right into their space.  It is encouraging to hear other creatives share their stories of what worked and what didn’t.  It has me thinking of interviews and possibilities of collaboration.

This past fall I finally started Instagram and a bullet journal.  I am enjoying them both.  I am capturing my year on Instagram #2017startingnow.  My bullet journal is keeping me on track (the majority of the time!). So when I found out that BoHo Berry was combining both Instagram and bullet journal in the month of March – well how inspiring is that!

There is so much out there to get our juices flowing. Just look around you and explore possibilities.  Get excited and inspired over new ideas or old ideas you want to revisit.  Please let me know what is currently inspiring you.

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Your ideal day – pin it on Pinterest

I have been reading about Vision Boards and thought I’d put my hat in the ring.  I started an “ideal day” board on Pinterest. I read a blog post that talked about capturing images and ideas over what your perfect day would be – or life. This ranges from clothes you would wear, places you would be going, activities you would be doing, to how your surroundings look.  I started the board – made it is hidden board – it has been fun and has kept me a bit on track over a few things.  It is neat in that it is a variety of pins from outfits, art and décor, places/travel and activities.  It also lets you visually see what is important to you and hopefully goals you can work towards.

So I want to share a few pins of my “ideal day”.  I would start the day with a yoga sequence to get body moving and centered.

Morning beginner yoga - simple, easy stretches before you start your day: I pinned this outfit from Sheaffertoldmeto.com.  I have enjoyed the outfit part and seeing them all in one place, capturing my style.  All the outfits are casual wear.

Now I am ready to head out. I’m off to the New York City Library reading room.  No, I don’t live in New York. This is somewhere I have always dreamed of writing.  So of course, on my ideal day I will be writing in the reading room!

Reading Room Ny Public Library. New York City NYC. Dave Mills:

While at the library I would be working on my ebook.  Good post on tips and places to publish an ebook.

Of  course my ideal day would involve planning my next trip.  Don’t ask me where this is exactly I just loved the picture so pinned it and I’m a back alley person so……

I would end the day relaxing on my patio.  Found picture over at Emily Henderson.

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Had to include this quote and this encapsulates my ideal day.

Quote pinned from Buzzfeed.

I am continuing to add to my ideal day board.  It is a place I refer to for ideas and keeping me on track for what matters. I enjoy having all my inspirational pictures in one place.  Why not have a place you can reference and start planning your dreams.  Pin that cafe in Paris, an outfit or a new kitchen. The majority of us are pinning anyways so let’s start a board all about us.

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#Loveuary Challenge

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Ritu over at But I smile anyway is having a #Loveuary Challenge this month. She is celebrating love all month in all of it’s relationships.  So I’m taking up the challenge and here is my take on #Loveuary!

Ritu gave a great list of ideas to write about to celebrate love.  When I was reading through the list I thought “that is the one” that resonates with me.  It was “finding you”.   My take is self-love or compassion toward myself.  Not feeling good enough has always been a struggle for me (and for many of us I realise).  I recently read “It is just my job to create and share. Not to judge. The market will take care of that.”  We can easily take this and change it to “It is just my job to be me, to hold myself to my sense of integrity.  Others will judge me whether they know me or not.”

All we have to do is be our best selves.  Some days will be easier than others and that is okay. We are on a journey and that journey includes loving ourselves. All of our strengths and faults. We are terrific packages and it is not our job to judge only to love.  The world will take care of the rest.  Let’s start with more love in #Loveuary.

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Pushing boundaries and heading to PodCamp !

One thing about blogging where my tag line is exploring possibilities is, well, actually exploring possibilities.  Since starting to blog I see things in a slightly different light.  I question interactions, events, dreams and possibilities – could this be a blog post?  I have pushed myself to try new things and question my limiting beliefs.  I am not getting stuck in perfectionism. I am sending my ideas and projects out to the universe. They might not be perfect (would they ever be?) but I am ready to let them go.

So long story short this leads me to my latest adventure. Podcamp!  Direct quote “Podcamp is an ever-changing, community guided event offering a level playing field for all those wishing to share their digital life experience”.  Some of the sessions offered were:  YouTube like a Pro; Growing Fresh Content; The Importance of kindness in the Digital World; Mobile Game Streaming 101; Content Chaos: Building Your Brand through Constant Experiments; Marketing Trends to Watch for in 2017 and Responsible Scheduling.  It was an all-day event – FREE.  Yes you read that right.

One take-away was to explore YouTube as a social media platform.  Would it help me get my message out there?  Is what I have to offer YouTube worthy?  These questions lead directly to the next session I attended which was Content Chaos: Building Your Brand through Constant Experiments.  A young man told his story of using different social media platforms (a few I had never heard of) to get his message/product out there.  Some succeeded and other didn’t.  He said you have to weigh the risk, know your audience and that platform’s audience.  He described the 70-20-10 rule.  70% of pushing your product in areas you know are tried and true, 20% is intermediate risk and 10% is high risk.  But that high risk is worth it if you find you can move the idea to intermediate risk or it becomes tried and true.  We have to continue to experiment and put ourselves out there – chaos is not necessary a bad thing.  Don’t you think that was fate to have that session right after the YouTube session got me thinking of trying it as a social media!

Another session was on a local blog and his digital story.  Wrangling WordPress was interesting as she talked about giving ourselves grace when we don’t know it all.  The last session was on Responsible Scheduling which introduced us to a wide variety of scheduling packages from Hootsuite, Buffer, Social Juke Box and Post Planner.  She explained the difference between scheduling and automation.  Automation is content going out where you have no control over timing or even the content.  Responsible scheduling is you pick what content goes out and when. If it is not relevant it doesn’t automatically get sent out and you don’t look like a fool.

I don’t live in a big city like Toronto, Calgary or New York, but we still have these events happening.  Check out your area for PodCamp or WordCamp.  You never know what will come up.  It is all about pushing boundaries and trying new things.  Or like one session said “constant experiments”.  We don’t know what we are capable of until we try.  So, be prepared I am going to start researching YouTube.  I’ll keep you posted!

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My Valentine’s Day Rant – yeah my rant!!

My friend and fellow blogger Wanda, over at A Wandafulthing, is having a Valentine’s Blog Party on February 12th.  Well, of course, I want to go to the party, but a Valentine’s party?  I wasn’t sure I had anything to bring to this party.  Valentine’s has never been my thing.  I mulled it over and the following post came to me – not sure it is exactly what you might think of for a Valentine’s post, but I’m putting it out there!  Here goes my party offering!!


Can you celebrate Valentine’s without someone to snuggle with?  If Valentine’s is for loved ones than who gets to define that, besides the greeting card industry. No one.  We used to give Valentines cards out to our classmates – boys and girls alike.  Okay, maybe our best friend got the bigger cuter card – but I regress. We often feel like losers if we have no one sending us flowers, chocolate or even a card. We all know the woman in the office whose partner always sends her something and we gush and go on.  Even if you have a partner there is no guarantee he/she will come through with the goods.

So my plan is to take back Valentine’s Day to when we were kids. I will give out cards and goodies to friends.  Also why not buy ourselves flowers to enjoy with our chocolate.  Get out and buy a package of Valentine day cards you would normal purchase for your kids to give out.  Either write your name or anonymous on them and have them in your pursue to give out on the day. Leave one on a co-worker’s desk; give one to someone at the bus stop and a clerk in a store.  Randomly give those Valentine cards out and spread the wishes around.  Take Valentine’s Day back to when we were kids and everyone got card.

PS for those with partners OMG do something for them, parents, children and everyone in your life.

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